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Cheers Monday! Thanks for nothing. 

Like so many people, I’m not a huge fan of Mondays. Or maybe Mondays aren’t my biggest fans? 

I imagine I’m not alone in that. Nor in the fact that I find it frustrating.

Either way, try as I might, Mondays are always hard. 

Today I had a ton to do, so I did my best to try accomplishing all the things before getting down to writing. 

So here I am, at the very end of a long day, trying to remember what I managed to cross off the list. 
Laundry.  Dishes. 

And I made the lunches for tomorrow.  

Oh, and I managed to break my favorite end-of-the-day mug. 

#MondaysAreHard

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People are absurd. Life is awkward. Don’t forget to laugh. 

ON THE YELLOW COUCH

Someone in my office apparently quit her job several months ago without telling any of her coworkers. In fact, we have heard nothing from her in seven and a half months. Today, on the day that she finally came to pack up her cubical, the office manager asked everyone to offer her cheerful well-wishes on a bright floral greeting card. Because apparently that’s what you do when someone stealthily exits her place of employment.

“Dear Gerta, This is awkward. {smiley face; ex oh ex oh.} -Angelica.”

Human social behaviors and rituals can be so baffling and cringeworthy that they are funny. The entire career of Jerry Seinfeld, a comedic cultural icon, was built on the uncomfortable absurdity of our species.

And many people avoid aspects of social living because social living is, objectively, as awkward as walking barefoot through jello while surrounded by those horrifying close-up mirrors that they…

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So You Want to Wear a Safety Pin

What a Witch

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Great. This is a necessary behavior in the face of the election of the most overtly racist, sexist, xenophobic, anti- gender and sexual minority candidate in the history of the modern United States. You know the rhetoric of his campaign was wrong. It was the very worst thing about America and you want to do what you can to combat the result. Good. Do that.

But don’t do it without a plan. Because the very last thing a tense situation needs is someone full of good intentions but with no knowledge of de-escalation tactics or self-defense. Your intentions are not a tangible shield. If you don’t make a plan, you will get yourself or the person you are trying to defend very killed.

Let’s avoid that.

So make a plan.

Some of you can stop reading now. You have, or know how to make a plan and you don’t need…

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Choose Kindness

Perspectives from a Hard Boiled Egg

Like many of you, I’m struggling with what to do after the results of our election on Tuesday. A few friends have posted a few tangible ideas on various social media platforms, and I loved them so much I wanted to create a list here so others can use those ideas, too.

  1. Volunteer at a local food bank, or start a food drive of your own.
  2. Pack Operation Christmas Child boxes.
  3. Wear a safety pin or use another way to let people know that you – and your office – are a safe space.
  4. Make connections with people you wouldn’t normally speak to or associate with because of your own biases.

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My number one thought (besides sadness) since Tuesday has been simple: choose kindness. But how does that manifest itself in real, tangible ways that are examples to our children?

  1. Say thank you. If you work in an office…

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Love Will Trump Hate

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I am a woman.
I am a lesbian.
My girlfriend is Muslim.

After yesterday’s election, these are now three reasons for me to be scared, worried,  disgusted, and sad. My country failed me, and every other woman, and every Muslim, and every person of color, and every member of the LGBTQ+ community.

I can’t change the results of the election, but I can choose how I move forward in my life for the next four years. I choose love and tolerance for those with a different opinion. I choose to hold strong to my beliefs, and use this as motivation to get involved. I can no longer tell myself that one person can’t make a difference. This is too important.

I desperately don’t want my right to get married to be taken away. I want to be able to have children on my own terms, and I want my girlfriend to…

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